On being on the wrong side of fashion..
Hi knitting friends!
I’m going to do something I’ve been doing a lot lately, and talk more about life than about knitting, though at least there are some references to knitting (or at least knitwear) in this post. However, if you only come here for the knitting, this is probably another good one to skip. (fair warning.)
I’ve been thinking a lot lately about clothes.
Now, don’t get me wrong. I love clothes. I think that they are a wonderful way to express your originality, and for you to put out your signature style and personality in a place where even people you don’t know can see it. That’s cool, and there’s really an art to crafting a style that is uniquely you. I know that a lot of people see having an interest in fashion as superficial and shallow, but I tend to disagree. If you want to see clothes as a purely utilitarian endeavor, don’t let me stop you, but my clothes are a reflection of my personality, and I like them that way. I think that they’re a fun way to work your artistic sensibilities into your daily life, and what’s wrong with that??
Some of you may already know this, but recently I’ve lost a fair bit of weight (about 15 pounds so far.) I plan to lose a little more, but I’m feeling pretty good and much healthier, and as a result of my weight loss, a lot of my clothes no longer fit, so I’m getting rid of stuff. So far, so good right? One I’m at a place where I want to stay, I will probably go on an enormous clothes-buying binge, but even now I’m keeping an eye out, shopping around, trying to find stuff that I think will look good.
However, I have learned something while trying stuff on in stores. Apparently my body is ALL WRONG. The trends for this season seem to be loose, shapeless, oversized knits, dresses with weird cutouts, baggy things, floaty tops with no shaping, weird, high waisted everything, and zero stretch in any of the fabrics that aren’t knits.
In every single one of these things, I look as big around as my biggest parts. It’s so demoralizing. I want to be one of those cute, chic girls in skinny jeans and an oversized sweater, but there is no way that will ever be me. I look like the michelin man in that outfit, it’s really not cute. Same with the floaty tops, it’s *poof* out over my chest and then it falls straight down from there, and I look super dumpy >.<
Now, I know I’m not the only one who feels this way. Clothes are designed for really skinny people without curves (i.e. models) and since I don’t look like a model, I shouldn’t be too bummed out that fashionable things don’t look the way I want them to on me. The problem is, that after I go shopping, instead of feeling good about myself and my progress, I feel bad that I’m so far off of “ideal.” Since I’m so much healthier and also smaller, I magically expect that I’ll now look good in whatever is fashionable, and that’s simply not true, and it may never be. I’ll always have a curvier figure rather than an athletic one, and I’ve really made peace with that. It’s just disheartening when you feel good, and expect to look good, and then you go out shopping and it’s just demoralizing. I know that it’s illogical to be bothered by this, but the thing is, no one really has a “perfect” figure! Is it so much to ask that more accessible brands should be high fashion trends modified for people who are normal? Sweater dresses are great if they are fitted! And they’re so adorable with leggings. I can do a looser sweater as long as it has some shape to it, floaty tops are fine if they can be worn with a belt or something to bring them in at the waist, but a lot of that stuff looks stupid with the modifications I would need, or it just doesn’t seem to exist this season. (And I don’t think crop tops will EVER be flattering on me *shudders*)
Looking at this post, it now feels like I’m doing a lot of complaining, and I guess I am, though it wasn’t my intention. I think part of what I’m wondering is if I’m the only one who feels this way? I don’t really think I’m terribly insecure about my body, but shopping for clothes is a real bummer in my book (and I want it to be fun.) Do you feel like trendy clothes are inaccessible to you because you don’t have a stereotypically “perfect” figure? And a broader question is why, if the vast majority of the people have normal bodies, are all the clothes for only one body type??
This all is a rather long way of saying that I’m really glad that I can make my own clothes, and, when I make an oversized sweater, I’m totally adding some waist shaping. Because they’re my clothes and I can do what I want. Even if I can’t buy them the way I like, I can at least make them 😛
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